Wobbly tooth

Excitement

I never realised how excited I’d be over a wobbly tooth! To the point of dancing around our ridiculously large bathroom. Jasmine was in fits of giggles laughing at how excited Mummy was.

I always (mostly) check her teeth after she has brushed them. I know I should probably do them still but she insists on doing them herself (the joys of having a very independent young girl – pick your battles is one of my mantras). So our compromise is that she does them and I check them afterwards, if I feel they’re not brushed properly then I do them again. It works for the most part.

So when I was checking them I noticed her gum seemed to be bulging a bit behind her bottom front tooth. So I leaned in for closer inspection and there it is, her big tooth poking through at the back. I give her milk tooth a little push and notice that it is indeed quite wobbly. How Jasmine never noticed before now I don’t know!

Developmental stages

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I think my excitement comes from it being the first developmental milestone in some time. When they’re babies and toddlers, development happens quite quickly – holding their heads up, smiling, rolling over, sitting up, crawling, walking and talking etc. Quite often all of this in their first year of life.

Then development kind of slows down and its other things like starting nursery and school that get you excited (or sad) that they’re no longer babies and toddlers. That episode is over and all you have is memories (and a few thousand photos on your mobile that you say to yourself you must go through and get developed for that beautiful butterfly photo album that you received for Christmas… )

So the occurrence of the first wobbly tooth seems like another huge milestone much like the ones  experienced in baby and toddler-hood. It’s another step of my little girl growing up and I amaze at how much she’s grown into such a delightful confident girl. Whilst realising that the tooth fairy now charges a hell of a lot more than the 20p/50p that we used to get children!

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The Liebster Award

 

 

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Ok… ok… umm so I’ve been nominated 3 times for this award. At first, as a new blogger I wasn’t sure what it was all about I will admit that. So apologies for missing out on the first two nominations (thank you @babylistsUK; @dadvworld ) but thank you to Theblatheringsofanorthernmam for my third nomination.

The award, I’ve found out, is to celebrate new bloggers. To find out a bit more about them and to have a bit of fun. Since starting my blog, I’ve chatted to some great people and it’s opened up a whole new community. Along the way I’ve discovered some great blogs, old and new. I’ve read some blogs that have made me giggle, some uncontrollably whilst spilling coffee over my laptop and some that have me nodding enthusiastically at experiencing the same things and some that have made me question things further.

Now for the serious stuff…the rules…

  • Thank the person who nominated you and link back to his/her blog.
  • Copy and paste the Liebster Award badge to your post.
  • Answer the ten questions the person who nominated you asked.
  • Nominate 10 new bloggers with less than 200 followers that you want to share with the world.
  • Then create ten new questions for the bloggers you are nominating
  • Notify the bloggers that you have nominated by leaving a comment on their blog.

Here are the questions I was asked by Theblatheringsofanorthernmam and my carefully thought out answers:

1 – What has been your happiest moment and why?

A very obvious answer but when I could hold my daughter after she was born safe and healthy. I had a quick labour of 5 hours after an induction. The last hour was a bit frantic with a sense of urgency to get her out due to a slow heartbeat. When she was born I couldn’t see or hold her for about an hour due to breathing difficulties but then when it all settled down I was able to see and hold her. Definitely my happiest and most relieved moment.

2 – If you rubbed a lamp and a genie popped out, what would your three wishes be?

  1. For my family to be healthy and happy
  2. For my family to be financially secure
  3. For my family to enjoy life

3 – Which book has had the most influence on you?

This is hard one given that I read loads, I’ve given this much thought and I’m really unsure what book has had the most influence over me.

So I’ve gone with my favourite book of all time and that I’ve read over and over and where my love of this particular author began. The novel is Pride & Prejudice. I love reading reviews on other peoples take on it, it always sparks a good debate! It’s a marmite book! 

4 – What has been your scariest moment?

Getting stuck in a lift – I suffered many panic attacks after that incident.

5 – If you were a food, what would you be?

Hmm I want to say something healthy but chocolate keeps springing to mind! It’s wildly delicious and yummy and you just want to keep coming back for more!!

6 – If you could say anything to your boss, what would you say?

Give me a permanent job! Pleeeeaaasssee!

7 – What’s your biggest dream in life?

Simple… to be happy

8 – If you could slap one person and totally get away with it, who would it be?

My ex-boss. Hence why he’s now a ex-boss! 

9 – What’s the most outrageous thing you’ve ever done?

I couldn’t possibly say!!

10 – Would you rather fight a 50 ft bear, or 50 1 ft bears?

50 1ft bears and hopefully cuddle it out! 

So my nominations are:

The curious life of a mummy with 2

Cocospring

Everyonesleepingbutmom

North East Crafty Blogger

The Weary Wall Flower

Dad Up North

Nomipalony

Loving living the simple life

mummytoosh

Captain Poo Pants

My 10 questions for you all, I look forward to reading your answers.

1. What’s your favourite (non-blog) website?
2. If you could travel anywhere in the world where would it be and why?
3. Is there any world city you found disappointing or underwhelming when you visited it?
4. What epitaph would you have written on your gravestone?
5. What do you do to overcome writers’ block?
6. What is your ‘guilty pleasure’ TV show or film?
7. If you could time travel to any decade in the 20th century, what would it be?
8. If any Hollywood star, dead or alive, could play you in a movie of your life, who would it be & why?
9. If you were to invite 2 celebrities to your home for dinner, who would they be? What would you serve them for dinner?
10.What is your favourite thing to do first thing in the morning?

Thank you to everyone who has supported me on my blogging journey so far! I’m excited to see what these next few months will bring. Let me know your blog goals in the comments below.

Decisions

I was out last Friday night for an overdue night out with some friends for a 40th birthday. There were some new faces and some that I hadn’t really seen since high school. It was great to catch up and reminisce. It got me thinking about the different paths we all took.

As a child my dream was to become an art teacher. Art was my life, I was pretty good at, in that I was a grade A student and received distinctions for my work as well as having exhibitions. I wanted to teach these skills and have others enjoy it as much as me.

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My daughter’s recent artwork…

I guess my life was to take a different direction though, I went to college and part way through the art course I decided, rightly or wrongly, to take a year out from studying. I ended up getting a full time retail job in which I was quite successful and was promoted several times and thus I never went back to my art. Since then I’ve worked in different fields; retail, admin, human resources, and currently I work in the advertising sector. I’ve enjoyed most of them and have gained a lot of experience in different sectors, which is all very good really. But…

Do I ever regret my decision?

I honestly don’t know. I try to live by the rule of having no regrets in life. We ask ourselves whether our lives mapped out for us already or do we make our fate? Who knows? But is it really important though?

I do believe in the present. It’s important for us to enjoy our lives as much as possible now, for we never know what tomorrow can bring. I do know that I will encourage my daughter to enjoy her time in education and take her time deciding what she wants to do as a career and not feel rushed or pressured to get into the big wide world of work.

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Rushed 

My aim to write every day failed. My reason though is I’m in London, with work and I underestimated how busy I would be! So this is my poor attempt at a very short post before work. 

The pace down here compared to Northumberland is very different. Everyone is in a hurry. There doesn’t appear to be any time to stop and take a moment to relax. It’s a lot noisier and there is a constant stream of traffic.

There are positives, the architecture is stunning and there is something on every corner that makes you stop (if you have the time) to look at and admire. The history is fascinating and again if you have the time to take in the culture it’s definitely worth doing.

So, London is definitely worth a visit but make sure you have the time to admire what’s around you. However I can’t wait to get back home to my family x

Parenting Pleasures #1

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Despite my recent moanings, there are a lot of moments that make me happy! My recent engagement with the man of my life, going for evening walks, a family day at the beach, eating lovely food and drinking wine… to name a few and despite parenting being one of the most difficult things I’ve done it’s also the most rewarding.

I’m going to write about some of those moments which really make me smile and proud to be mum to my beautiful daughter as a way to keep these moments alive and for reflection on days where parenting is a struggle or we’re going through yet ‘another phase’.

Of course there has been lots of precious moments over the years as my daughter is now 5 and a half… starting to crawl, then walking and talking right through to starting school in September and listening to her starting to read books on her own. The years have passed so very quickly, people did warn me and they said to cherish these early years, and as a tired mummy I would nod and agree without taking much notice as I’d heard it over and over. But it’s so true, 5 years have passed in a flash and my little baby is blossoming into a beautiful young girl who, for the most part, is delightfully funny and caring.

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Our ‘Girly’ Day

Last Friday, as it was still the Easter holidays and I had a rare day off work, we (I) decided that we would have a ‘girly’ day together, especially as she is away this week on a trip to London with her Grandma, it meant that we could have some quality time together before she went.

Jasmine loves ‘girly’ days – its a chance for her to have my full attention which all children love but we know is difficult to achieve sometimes in normal day to day life. We (I) decided that we would go for a much needed trip to the hairdressers followed by shopping and then go for lunch somewhere ‘posh’. Now, we all know that usually taking a young child shopping is a big stress and generally you will do anything to avoid this scenario at all costs but because it was dressed up as a ‘girly’ day with one on one mummy time, Jasmine was all up it rather than the usual tears and arguments that often start as soon as the word ‘shop’ is mentioned.

The day was perfect. Jasmine loved visiting the hairdressers and was suitably impressed by my new hairdresser Jess, who was fab and managed to cut her hair straight despite Jasmine inability to keep her head still!

Afterwards, Jasmine declared that she ‘needed energy’ to go shopping and wanted food first, we went to Hungry Horse for lunch even though it was only 11.30am!  This is a great food chain for families* and we always get a booth as they have little TV’s which is handy to entertain children whilst they’re waiting. The food is lovely, well priced with a good selection for children of all ages. They have two menu options for young children (0-8) and older children (8+). Jasmine decided she wanted the older child option and went with a healthy chicken wrap meal which comes on a large plate where she can make up the wraps to her liking. They had healthy carrot and cucumber sticks with a choice of a couple of dips. The chicken breast is freshly cooked and really yummy. Jasmine was very happy with her choice and ate everything in sight.

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I had a very tasty pulled pork wrap with a large black coffee in readiness for the shopping adventure which lay ahead!

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Despite my apprehension about going clothes shopping, I know that this can get very boring for young children and get quite stressful for parents especially when you’re struggling to find anything that fits, it all went quite well I’m pleased to say. A recent growth spurt has meant that most of her clothes now do not fit and I find that I’m buying 7-8 year old clothes for a 5 year old… however I need not have worried, the day was a success and we managed to find many new outfits, most of which in the sales (bonus!) plus some new shoes.

So, overall we were very happy and we both left the shopping centre happy, in good moods and smiling with not a tear in sight from either of us!

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Mission accomplished!

*p.s. this is not an advertisement feature or an endorsement. This is just my own reflection of a great little place on a lovely day we had together.

 

 

 

Monday Motivation

 

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I’ve been absent for the last two weeks. Sorry. I’ll admit life has been quite busy and stressful (sorry Erik, you have taken the brunt or my irritableness but you are my rock, we are a team and I love you).

Thing is, life is hectic for all of us. Some know how to handle it better than others, and usually I’m pretty good at it. But I’ll admit (again!) that these last few weeks have been harder than usual – I’m selling my house, it’s nearer the final stages of conveyancing and the buyer is threatening to pull out. We’re planning a wedding abroad. I’ve decided to re-decorate the dining room. I am also a carer. As mentioned in my last blog post I went part-time at work as I thought that would help, however I find I am busier than ever.

So I have decided that I am going to get everything back in order. I am a list person – I write lists for everything at work, grocery shopping, household chores and I find that it helps me prioritise things better. So with the start of a new month I am going to list my intentions for this month to give me some focus.

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1 Blog – this week I am aiming to write a blog post each day in the hopes this will get me out of this rut I am in. The topics will be random and I won’t over think about it either. I hope it may be therapeutic and at least help clear my head. Jasmine is away for the week with her Grandma so I hope this will help with some free time.

2 Try not to stress over my old house – I have to accept that I have no control over what happens with the selling of my house. Did I mention that I was a bit of a control freak?! Everything is in the hands of the solicitor and mortgage company and there is not a lot I can do at the minute. The sooner I accept this the sooner I can sleep at night…

3 Enjoy wedding planning! – even though we’re not getting married until April 2018, I’m finding out there is still a lot of planning even in the very early stages and to be honest I’ve not really enjoyed it so far as there is just so much information and variables to worry about. However, at the weekend we finally picked a destination we both agreed on as we have decided to get married abroad so hopefully the fun part of planning starts now.

4 Pick a dining room theme – it’s driving me nuts that I can’t decide what I want to do with this room. The problem is it has to be multi-functional; a dining room, activity room, homework room, as well as a cosy space to relax. It’s not a massive room either so I have to be smart with storage. With the house being built in the Victorian era, it also has a beautiful fireplace range with ovens which I would love to make a feature so I need to consider this in the ‘theme’. My aim this week is to chose a design or some wallpaper at the very least!

5 Take time out for me – I feel better when I look after myself (pretty obvious huh!) however I spent years not looking after myself when I was a lot younger and it took it’s toll. Now I’m fearful of slipping back into the old routine so if I miss exercising or fall back into old eating habits I get very irritable with myself. I am going to drink more water and find time each day to exercise, shouldn’t be hard when my workout is 20 minutes long but I struggle to find the right balance during the day. So my mission is to get up earlier and do my workout before anyone else gets up and then it’s out of the way and I feel refreshed for the day ahead.

6 Have fun and enjoy the moment – lately I worry that I take things so seriously all the time and I’m not much fun! It’s so easy to let the day to day routines take over. I am going to make an effort to be more fun again and hopefully if I follow most of what I intend to do above, it should come naturally. Fingers crossed.

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Here’s to a happy and hopefully sunny April!

 

 

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Sports Relief Day? What’s that then?!

Crap.

So today is Sports Relief Day. Who knew?! not me apparently.

Generally in the past I haven’t really paid any attention to these things  (does that make me a bad person?) but as I am quickly finding out, schools do pay a lot of attention to these!

As a mum to a 5 year old in reception class, there is an awful lot to remember. Harvest Festivals, Halloween, Christmas party’s & plays, birthdays, World Book Days, Sport Relief Day, parents evening etc. There will be many many more I guess, I just can’t remember them or we haven’t had them yet.

I feel completely disorganised and out of my depth at times. This should be easy.

  1. Get the letters from school, the little slips, newsletters, school texts, invitations in amongst all the scrap bits of paper with a squiggles on (sorry the wonderful paintings and creative writing that is usually in my daughters school bag every day) and;
  2. Write the details in the family calendar, put a note on the work calender, and for piece of mind on my iPhone calender.

It’s not hard is it? So, why do I fail or end up rushing around at the last minute with things? I hope (and pray!) that I am not alone….

 

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Maybe I need to wear these more often!?

 

(Dis) Organised chaos.

I should be good at this stuff. Before I went part time, I had a busy career, I was in a lot of meetings and travelled a lot. I was organised. Despite working in excess of 50 hours a week, and feeling like I hardly saw my daughter though.

When I was given an opportunity to go part time in a different line of work, I thought great! I would be able to relax a little more and spend more quality time with my family. I could be one of these perfect Pinterest families splashed across the screen, which is a big misconception by the way – no-one can be that perfect. Honest.

I feel being part time has made me busier than before, I am juggling a lot more plates it seems. Before I could drop my little squiggler off at the childminder early morning, then concentrate on work for 9-10 hours then pick up little squiggler, get ready for bed and then relax. Now I work only 4 hours a day but when not at work then I’m here, there and everywhere, getting pulled in all directions.

So this morning when I watch my daughter, sobbing her eyes out, as she sees all her other classmates in sports wear and she is standing in her school uniform, it breaks my heart that I failed to remember something so simple. I wipe away her tears, look into those big sad eyes and explain to her it’ll all be okay, and that not everyone will be in sports wear (please god let there be at least one other parent that has forgotten!) and if the weather brightens up then she can always pop her P.E. kit on (BIG thank you to another mum who reminded us about an alternative option).

So please sun, get your bloody hat on and come out today so my daughter won’t feel like the odd one out and hate me forever!! 

Note to self – must not forget Easter!!!